I usually don't let it get to me but recently it has.
Let me start by saying ... I am completely madly head over heels in love with my boyfriend. We've been together for years and he is not just a boyfriend but the best friend too. He always know how to put a smile on my face and nothing makes me happier than when I see him every week end after a long busy week at work.
We've been dating for a long time and this relationship that I'm in right now is amazing. We fight, we fit, we click, and sometimes it's a little scary that it's that simple. We didn't even realize it's been that long, time flew before our eyes.
If you are in any way in my position too - 25 and still unmarried (yes I'm only 25) , I bet you would agree when I say ... I seriously have lost count of the number of times people asked me when am I getting married.
These questions just go on and on and on and on ..... it's really getting on my nerves lately. Why, because most of my friends are married, some with kids already, my cousins are either married or engaged. I know that my uncles, aunts and friends mean nice. I get that they want me to be happy. Heck, I want me to be happy. And, I am happy. But when you ask the same questions over and over again, don't you realize that 1) you are not helping, 2) kind of rude to ask in the first place?
Nash gave me a promise ring 2 years ago and I've worn it on my finger since, which sometimes a cause of me constantly getting "are you getting married?" questions. It's worst when it comes from people I see regularly and who I've told repeatedly that this ring was just a gift from Nash, BUT still ask me if we've recently gotten engaged - I wanna pull my hair out already!
Honestly speaking, I would be happy to be married right now and skipped the messy wedding work for no other reason than to shut everyone up.
This is not mean. This is not cold. This is true.
For all of you who is in the same position as mine, take my word. In life, you will always find people who seem to be doing things better and faster than you - getting engaged, getting married, better job, better wedding, having kids first - but if you are secure in yourself and happy with where you are, I don't see that it matters that much.
Don't ever let anyone dictate you for what happens with your life. You are in charge of your own happiness. I know it sounds cliche, but it's true. They might be engaged or married but do you think they are in as good relationship as yours? Every relationship is different, they are not apples to apples.
I don't mean to disrespect those of you who got married young. Good for you, I'm really happy for you. It's wonderful. It's just didn't happen for me. If I had married the first man who asked me to marry him, I'd probably be dead right now and I'm not kidding about this. It was a bad relationship and one that I'm glad to be out of.
I wish people would stop asking when I'm getting married because I don't know!
I don't know how did it happen for you but there is the other part that I can't control - Mr Husband. I can't make a man marry me. I already forced Nash to be my boyfriend I can't force him to marry me now. Ok, inside jokes only Nash would understand hehe.
On a serious note, men propose when they are ready and they don't want to be nagged about it. If they aren't ready, you are really setting yourself up for major heartbreak down the road.
So when am I getting married? I don't know.
It's the same like asking when are you going to die? Exactly, you don't know.
But what I know is ... it's gonna happen for me and no one can ruin it!
Seriously guys, if you can stop asking, that'd be great.
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