I have been having lousy days at work where everything seems to be going wrong. And it doesn't help that people keep interrupting my story half way with "Relax, I've had worst" or "That's nothing, when I was at your place I used to get that almost every other day and bla bla .." oh of course I'm listening to your problem now, forget mine.
Gahhhh, people should really learn empathy.
I know that I have to be optimistic and put my problem solving skills & grey matter to use. Do what I always do, in a knowing that there's a light at the end of the tunnel is the force that drives me to overcome the negative barriers.
But, I'm a human being. I have feelings and emotions. Sure, be optimistic and all that crap but first, go physical. Now I'm talking about punching the shit out of the person you had an argument with.
Ok no, I'm just kidding. I can't drop the ball and scream 'Go away!' at people.
I know I have to deal with it professionally. So I go back to my desk, open Google Chrome, type "how to deal with stress at work". Hehe professional enough.
I found a lot of articles that suggest ways to cope with bad day at work speak as if the day is over and you have gone home and curled up fetal position underneath your blanket and forgotten everything! Useless.
Gahhhhhhhhh! *slams laptop
At this very second I really wish my company had a room where employees can unwind on punching bags.
Now what do I do? Let the frustration dissipate. Take a 5 - 10 mins walk outside of the office or even if it means going to the bathroom several times, have a good cry, sitting, deep breathing, stretching, just do it. Ehem no of course I didn't cry. Macho girls don't cry.
Trust me it is best to let go of bad vibes as soon as you feel them. Sometimes you can do everything right and it all goes wrong. And sometimes you can do everything wrong and it still goes right. It's not fair but it's just life. You deal with it, you move on.
Now that I have let out my feelings, all of my sense come back to mind and suddenly I can think again. Here is the hardest part - telling myself that I can and will make it right. It may sound easy but take my word, when everything seems to be going wrong, it takes every ounce of courage you have to believe that everything will be alright.
Mistake and failure is part of the learning process. If I don't make mistake, then I'm doing something wrong. That's right. If I don't do something wrong regularly then I'm not doing something right. Does that make any sense to you?
If I don't do mistake, then I don't know what's right. If I don't fail then I'm not trying enough things.
I have a pretty high expectation on myself. Learn things faster, contribute better, do mistake free. So when I do wrong, it is really disappointing thinking how I let my boss down and worst, how I let myself down.
It just recently came to my mind that I should stop focusing on what sucks. Our mind is our worst enemy. When things go great, I feel happy and I see the world in a much better light, But when things don't go like how I had planned, I am thrown into a gloomy mindset that tries to push myself harder trying to force the results I wish to see.
Worrying and stressing over such things definitely make me feel worse. Absolutely not worth the wrinkles on my face - I noticed this morning! Ahhhhhhhhhh
After all the hard work you've given to your job, it's definitely a satisfaction having your boss to pat you on your back saying "God job, John" at the end of the day. But it is for sure not the end of an era when you have one of those days where your boss seems to be pin pointing you for every mistake done. Hang in there, John.
The fact is, no matter how badly things are going, no matter how much you screwed up, no matter what has been taken away from you, you won't start from less than 0. Having everything taken away from you is not a situation you will ever find yourself in. You still have you. You have your knowledge, your thoughts, your mind and your experiences.
Get back up and prove that you are so much worthy. Your boss will know it eventually. Take time to develop and mature. Go John!
Eh wait, why is this suddenly about John. Sorry John, it was really about me. Go me!
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